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The 10 Minute Magic Trick Back To Happiness


What’s the sign that you’re truly ‪#‎happy‬?

What’s that feeling you get that tells you that all is exactly as it should be?

How do you know that something or someone is right for you?

For me, it was a bit of a surprise to discover it was a feeling of PEACE.

Times I’ve Felt Peaceful Include:

♧ When I left London for Madrid and then the mountains;
♧ When I left law for life coaching;
♧ When I write.

What Causes Calm?


Living life in accordance with your values - those things which make you tick – your internal drivers – your silent anchors which, when honoured and engaged, make you feel alive and at peace.

What Causes Niggling Unease?


If you’re feeling out of sorts at the moment – like you’re not quite where you’re meant to be – not doing a job you enjoy – not spending time with the right people – or not living in the right place – that’s likely because you’re not living your life in accordance with your values.

Maybe that’s because you feel too busy to take time out, too overwhelmed to think straight or maybe you’ve simply never sat down and worked out what really makes you tick.

The great news is, that feeling of unease is easy to resolve if you take a step back and spend ten minutes working out your values.

How To Recapture Your Va-Va-Voom 


Tap into the real you by formulating a list of your 8-10 core drivers – the things which give you purpose – by asking yourself:

♧ What am I doing when I’m happiest? 
♧ What couldn’t I do without in my life?
♧ What would my ideal day involve?
♧ If I had all the money in the world, what would I be doing?
♧ If time was no object, where would you find me?

Your list may include words like: 

‪#‎freedom‬ ‪#‎friends‬ ‪#‎love‬ ‪#‎writing‬ ‪#‎nature‬ ‪#‎travel‬ ‪#‎money‬ and more.

It’s totally personal.

Now put those words in order of priority.  

Once you’ve done that you should be able to spot the cause of your unease.

Which one of those values isn’t being met at the moment? If it’s a value near the top of your list, chances are you’re feeling all kinds of funny.

Don’t Believe Me?


You can test your values by looking back at times in your life when you felt unlike yourself – whether an ill-fitting relationship or an unfulfilling job. Review your values list against each scenario and I’ll bet you can identify which need wasn’t being met and why you felt so strange. Bear in mind, though, that your values evolve over time so what may have mattered to you ten years ago may hold less significance now.

The Magic Bullet


Having identified your needs, ask yourself what can you do to realign your ‪#‎life‬ with your ‪#‎values‬.

Savour how much more confident you feel making a ‪#‎change‬ now you understand why you feel the way you do.

Top Tips For Success: Why Knowing Your Values Is So Key


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The above picture is me suited and booted working as a lawyer in London. The picture below is me last week climbing up a rock face in France where I work as an online life coach and writer.


Luckily for me, my family encouraged my career shift. They could see I wasn’t happy working 24/7 no matter how interesting the work was and they sensed that coaching would bring the happiness and balance that I sought.

My parents were a little more concerned, however, when I told them I was thinking of moving to France to live with the long-haired French boy who rented me my skis ;)


Why Big Decisions Can Be So Hard…

It’s not always easy to make a confident decision when the people you value most are unsure themselves. It can make you question yourself, your drivers and your idea of happiness. But your nearest and dearest will end up sharing in your happiness when they see you all lit up inside – following what makes you tick. Because if you’re all lit up, chances are you’re living your life in accordance with your values. 


The trick is just working out what drives you. Simple, right?!

A Short-Cut From A to B….


If you’re not entirely sure what your values are as most of us aren’t, here are a few wee tricks to help you make a short list of about 8-10 of your core drivers in order of priority, whether financial security, love, travelling, socialising, career or beyond…

- When are you at your happiest?
– When do you feel most excited?
– What couldn’t you live without?
– If you had 6 months left to live, what would you do?
– What did your 10 year old self love and why?
– What are you most proud of?
– What is your gut saying?
– What do you hate? (The opposite is often a key driver)

Why Is Knowing Your Your Values So Key?


And if you’re wondering why it’s so important to take the time to work out your values, remember, having a firmer grip on what motivates you day to day will refine and strengthen you on every level, helping you to forge stronger friendships, romances, careers and fulfilment at large.