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Serenity v Stress: 50 Ways To Take A Break


If you’re stuck for ways to relax this week, check out 50 Ways to Take a Break above.

There are too many I love but if I had to choose, my favourites would be:

1. Call a friend;
2. Sit in nature; and
3. Pet a furry creature.

What makes you relax and unwind?

Into dreamy states that make your soul soar and your thoughts roam?

Whatever they are, indulge in them. And observe where your mind takes you. Those are the paths to wander down and wonder about.

And just for good measure, add another you don’t normally indulge in and observe how it lifts you up. 

The Line That Made Elizabeth Gilbert Want To Marry Her Husband

str2_ma_2210_p17k Elizabeth Gilbert author

For those of you who don’t know Liz Gilbert, she’s the bestselling author of Eat, Pray, Love – a woman who picked herself, suicidal, up off the floor, amidst a ruined marriage and set off on a year’s pilgrimage around the world to find herself. And find herself she did – and her soulmate – with stunning aplomb.

This is a woman with brains, beauty, courage and warmth to boot. There aren’t quite words for souls like these.

Here’s What Liz’ Husband Says About Love


“A woman’s place is in the kitchen, with her feet up with a glass of wine, watching her husband cook her a meal”.

… “He’ll pour me a glass of wine and say, now darling, what happened today? Tell me everything.”

“And I think to myself, how did I win this life?!”

‘I was telling a friend and she said, ”because you blossomed into the sort of person who attracted a man like that and you learned how to treat yourself so well on your own that when someone came along who treated you well, you finally recognised what that feels like – because you’ve been doing it to yourself the whole time.”

“And you’re like – oh he treats me the way I treat myself now – ok let’s go”.

How Can You Apply This In Your Daily Life?


So if you’re one of my lovely gazers feeling disillusioned with love, remember the great journey Liz went on. A journey devoted to self-care, self-love and self-discovery. A journey which took her from isolation, desperation and depression to the kind of love you just don’t hear about too often – the soaring kind which – as you can see below – brings tears to her eyes. The good kind!

So instead of fixating on the end of your journey, the attainment of your goal, refocus on the journey – a journey rich in love for yourself. Because as Liz herself so beautifully explains, it’s the surest way to wider happiness.

The Real Reason That Self Love Is The True Healer




Happy Monday, wee ones :)

After twinnie’s beautiful wedding and a few emotional attendees present – who have been on journeys far and wide – geographical and otherwise – it seems timely to remind ourselves of the power of self-love in achieving our happy ever afters, whether weddings, careers, friendships or otherwise.

We’ve all been there – bound in that tricky cycle of self-criticism that rears its ugly head when we’re at our more vulnerable – but we’re united in the positive growth that takes seed in those moments – in our strength as well as our humanity – to cherish our hearts – to nurture our souls – and to pull every positive learning we can from this journey called life.

So be kind to yourself today, wee one. We’re all in this together.





Why Looking Within Is The Way To Happiness






“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”



Why Self-Acceptance Is The Key To Happiness


Who Is Lucille Ball And What Does She Know About Happiness?

Lucille Ball was a beautiful American actress, comedian, model and the first woman to run a major television studio, producing popular television series such as Mission Impossible and Star Trek. She received four Emmys, A Golden Globe and A Lifetime Achievement Award (she was also a pretty pretty redhead). That she advocated the importance of self-acceptance, despite her movie star good looks and giant successes, speaks volumes about looking internally for happiness, not externally. No matter how beautiful or well-known you may be, if you don’t learn to cherish yourself, you’ll miss out on really living.

Why Should You Take The Preachers With A Pinch Of Salt?


Of course, there are also some folk who preach a little too much about the importance of finding happiness within before you can find happiness with others. I recall a good friend who had been single for years returning from a ‘girly’ trip away with friends who were all in longterm relationships and could talk of little else. Naturally, this amplified said friend’s feelings of loneliness after years of singledom, yet when she expressed this to her nearest and dearest, she was met with well-meaning but rather unfeeling advice about finding happiness within, before finding happiness in love. And while there is certainly some truth in this, sometimes life throws people punches that can be hard to recover from without a bit of external affirmation. As with all things, it’s a question of balance.

What Are The Benefits Of Self-Acceptance?


While it’s easier said than done, embracing who you are really is the first step towards inner confidence, peace and happiness. Whether this is accepting where your heart takes you in matters of love, choosing lifestyles that others would not choose themselves or being yourself and risking the disapproval of others in the short-term, it’s crucial to respect who you really are.

It may be hard to accept truths about yourself which you know others may find hard to swallow, but anyone who truly cares about you will only want to see your longterm happiness and will realise this when they see you happy.

A client once told me that the biggest mistake he’d made in life was ignoring his instinct about a woman that he loved in order to please his family. He said he’d since learnt that standing firm to who you are is always the best course of action, because if you’re acting in accordance with your true values, you’ll find true happiness and the naysayers will soon come around.

Why Is It Unhealthy To Resist Self-Acceptance?


Resisting who you are, whether worrying about what others think of you or looking outwards for acceptance, will only slow down your journey to happiness. A good friend repressed their sexuality for years for fear of what his military parents would think, only to discover that after short-term discomfort, his parents felt great relief in his happiness. Repressing who he really was had caused him years of inner turmoil and outward aggression which people couldn’t understand. And in the process of self-acceptance, he taught older generations blinded by ignorance a thing or two about love.

How Do You Know When You’ve Achieved Self-Acceptance?


Accepting who you are is an ongoing process - whether this means realising that your passion in life is unlikely to bring you the wealth that society reveres or accepting that your one true love isn’t who you’d imagined as a little girl.

The bottom line is, if you’re trusting your instinct, you’re accepting that intangible part of yourself which you cannot see or necessarily rationalise, that inner core which may be far from society’s ideals of perfection but the heart of you which makes you beautifully unique. Trusting your gut and knowing that ‘a feeling’ is adequate motivation for your decisions in life shows that you are some way down the path to self-acceptance, whether it’s resisting manipulation in a partner or standing up to a friend who has upset you.

The feeling of peace and contentment that will arise from whole-heartedly cherishing who you truly are will tell you that you’ve met yourself with open arms. From there, infinite possibilities will come your way, professionally, personally and spiritually – outer beauty will be attracted to the value that you place on yourself like a magnet drawn to your core.

Conversely, a sick feeling in your gut signals fighting against who you really are, whether this is in a relationship or in a job. If it doesn’t feel right, accept your feelings and respect them. They’re just whisperings from your wiser self.

How Can You Learn To Be More Self-Accepting Day To Day?


If this is hard to apply in real terms, take a look at this wonderful Ted Talk by Niko Everett, which gives great tips on building self-love. It’s amazing how effective her advice is. It can be as simple as repeating daily affirmations and it really does work :)

Why You Should ‘Come-Out’ Today?


So if you’re having a tough time ‘coming out’ in any sense, don’t dumb down who you really are. Take the above steps and learn, bit by bit, to embrace yourself in all your glory. It may not be easy and it may take some time but once you do, you’ll feel a peace you didn’t know existed.