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Serenity v Stress: 50 Ways To Take A Break

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If you’re stuck for ways to relax this week, check out 50 Ways to Take a Break above.

There are too many I love but if I had to choose, my favourites would be:

1. Call a friend;
2. Sit in nature; and
3. Pet a furry creature.

What makes you relax and unwind?

Into dreamy states that make your soul soar and your thoughts roam?

Whatever they are, indulge in them. And observe where your mind takes you. Those are the paths to wander down and wonder about.

And just for good measure, add another you don’t normally indulge in and observe how it lifts you up. 

A Toolkit For Happiness: 4 Steps To A More Fulfilling Life

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“Happiness can be found, in even the darkest of times, if only one remembers to turn on the light”

JK Rowling  ☂ ☼ ☆

If you’ve been:

△ Feeling a bit blue or out of sorts;
△ Wondering how to re-inject the joy into your joie de vivre; or
△ Asking yourself if life’s all it’s cracked up to be

this article by Elissa @Favor the Bold Communications is for you ♡

A 5-minute toolkit with a sad start, I guarantee these tips from the top will give you some easy to implement magic resources to put the spring back in your step ♫

Why You Shouldn’t Believe The Hype About Getting Older

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If we all stop buying into the patriarchal ideas and start owning how beautiful it is and WHAT A PRIVILEGE it is to age – we will really start making leaps as women.”

Jen Pastiloff | Writer | Retreat Leader & Motivational Speaker

I know I’m guilty of this too at times but when I read quotes like these I’m reminded what ageing REALLY means:

1. How lucky we are not to be facing terminal trials which would leave us feeling the complete opposite – robbed of our time and sick to our stomachs time really can stop;

2. How lucky we are to gain new experiences year on year, even if we’re reminded of it by numbers and the onset of grey hairs;

3. How lucky we are to grow older and wiser with new challenges and trials, even if our wisdom is sometimes born out of pain – pain is the stuff that shakes us out of complacency after all – thank God for pain!

4. And how wonderful it would be to be sitting in a rocking chair at the ripe old age of 80 looking back at a life lived without regret and fear.

So today – I ask you – embrace your age!

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Quit letting your life be defined by a number.

By the linear.

By bullshit.

So much of life is about:

☼ chance;
☼ making your own luck;
☼ and how you feel.

That’s sexy – that’s life-loving – that’s youthful.

How To Reframe And Gain

So reframe the negative assumptions you buy into with positivity, proactivity and gratitude – that you may have the privilege, for years to come, to grow riper, wiser and more enlightened.

For as Susan Sarandon so wisely echoes:

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The 10 Minute Magic Trick Back To Happiness

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What’s the sign that you’re truly ‪#‎happy‬?

What’s that feeling you get that tells you that all is exactly as it should be?

How do you know that something or someone is right for you?

For me, it was a bit of a surprise to discover it was a feeling of PEACE.

Times I’ve Felt Peaceful Include:

♧ When I left London for Madrid and then the mountains;
♧ When I left law for life coaching;
♧ When I write.

What Causes Calm?

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Living life in accordance with your values - those things which make you tick – your internal drivers – your silent anchors which, when honoured and engaged, make you feel alive and at peace.

What Causes Niggling Unease?

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If you’re feeling out of sorts at the moment – like you’re not quite where you’re meant to be – not doing a job you enjoy – not spending time with the right people – or not living in the right place – that’s likely because you’re not living your life in accordance with your values.

Maybe that’s because you feel too busy to take time out, too overwhelmed to think straight or maybe you’ve simply never sat down and worked out what really makes you tick.

The great news is, that feeling of unease is easy to resolve if you take a step back and spend ten minutes working out your values.

How To Recapture Your Va-Va-Voom 

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Tap into the real you by formulating a list of your 8-10 core drivers – the things which give you purpose – by asking yourself:

♧ What am I doing when I’m happiest? 
♧ What couldn’t I do without in my life?
♧ What would my ideal day involve?
♧ If I had all the money in the world, what would I be doing?
♧ If time was no object, where would you find me?

Your list may include words like: 

‪#‎freedom‬ ‪#‎friends‬ ‪#‎love‬ ‪#‎writing‬ ‪#‎nature‬ ‪#‎travel‬ ‪#‎money‬ and more.

It’s totally personal.

Now put those words in order of priority.  

Once you’ve done that you should be able to spot the cause of your unease.

Which one of those values isn’t being met at the moment? If it’s a value near the top of your list, chances are you’re feeling all kinds of funny.

Don’t Believe Me?

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You can test your values by looking back at times in your life when you felt unlike yourself – whether an ill-fitting relationship or an unfulfilling job. Review your values list against each scenario and I’ll bet you can identify which need wasn’t being met and why you felt so strange. Bear in mind, though, that your values evolve over time so what may have mattered to you ten years ago may hold less significance now.

The Magic Bullet

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Having identified your needs, ask yourself what can you do to realign your ‪#‎life‬ with your ‪#‎values‬.

Savour how much more confident you feel making a ‪#‎change‬ now you understand why you feel the way you do.

Marie Forleo: How You Can Make Fear Your Secret Weapon For Success

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\\ POWERFUL TRANSFORMATIVE TEACHING ON FEAR from the awe inspiring ‪#‎entrepreneur‬,‪ #‎author‬ and ‪#‎philanthropist‬ Marie Forleo

We’re all riddled with fear to different degrees – at different points on our ‪#‎journeys‬.

Whether:

۩ fear of being alone;
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fear of failure; 
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fear of disappointment

or otherwise – I know I’ve felt all three at times, as have most of my phenomenal female friends.

But as the lioness, Marie, so eloquently reminds us, we must reframe our fear and activate it as the positive force that it really is.

How Can Fear Be Positive?

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If you think about it, fear is just a manifestation of uncertainty – the risk of not achieving something that is hugely important to us. And where does that leave our identity?! Nowhere certain. Nowhere concrete. Nowhere fun.

But here’s the thing – fear is also a pretty draining emotion – if not embraced for what it really symbolises – which leaves us stuck worrying about the past or the future rather than harnessing the fun, fruity and pretty darn hopeful – present.

How Can We Convert Fear Into A Force For Good?

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So embrace your fear today by asking yourself what the positive intention behind your fear really is. Maybe it’s soaring ambition, a gorgeous readiness to love or the inner perfectionist that lights your path?

Now refocus your mind on that – magnify it – tenfold – and watch your fear melt into rock – hard – pumping – power ☼

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The Simple Way To Move From Where You Are Now To Where You Want To Be

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“Come forth into the light of things,
Let nature be your teacher”

William Wordsworth

Where do you feel most at home? And how can you be sure you really know? How much of an explorer are you – whether geographically, socially or otherwise?

How often do you talk to people from different worlds or even objective third parties – whether counsellors, coaches or wise old sages – about you – your life – and what you really want but have never given yourself the time – or permission to explore?

How often do you listen to that quiet voice inside and dare to hear what your shadow self is whispering?

How Do You Know If You’re Where You’re Meant To Be?

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If you’d have asked me where I saw myself 5 years ago, I probably would’ve seen myself climbing the corporate ladder as a family lawyer and I can safely say I wouldn’t have even thought of moving abroad.

And while family law seemed to tick many boxes, I now see why it niggled – even before I started down that path – because it neglected those deeper parts of my soul which need feeding – like work-life balance, creative expression and the freedom to work wherever and with whoever I choose.

I now know that that freedom lies at the heart of who I am – even the struggles and fears that run alongside exploring the world – whether geographically, socially or otherwise.

And if you’re not yet sure what you want out of life, ask yourself how you want to feel on your deathbed looking back at your life.

When I ask myself this question, I see myself as a wrinkly old lady having lived in various countries, speaking various languages, having mixed with people at all levels of society and having inspired people to find their true paths in life.

How Do You Know If You’re Living Your Life In Accordance With Your Values?

What brings you awakening, wee one? When do you feel truly alive, excited and right where you’re meant to be? If you’re not sure, ask yourself when you feel truly frustrated and turn this on its head.

For me, that moment of clarity came after I realised that having time for fun was quite simply – top – of – my – list. You got it – FUN. An unashamed, liberating – but clear – as – mud – truth!

How did I know this was so important to me? Because every time I felt angry, tearful and worried – whether sitting at my desk late at night at work missing another dinner party with friends – or ending up fighting tears in the work car park on a Saturday – it was because I felt I was missing out on having fun. And turns out that mattered. A LOT!

How Can You Implement Your Truth?

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How can you change your life when you’ve realised what lights you up? How can you implement your new reality?

Simple – baby steps – and logic.

For me, this was quite simply writing a list of the things I loved and wanted to do after leaving law – not necessarily with any longterm certainty – but starting point activities that made me feel good.

Here are some of the things that featured:

\\ Writing
\\ Learning Spanish
\\ Becoming fluent in French
\\ Doing a life coaching course
\\ Going to New York – skiing – and possibly Europe

And what a journey that list has taken me on.

My brief spell doing a Spanish course in Madrid truly awakened my creative energy – and in that calm, free space it was clear writing had to feature in my life – as I’d wanted it to, deep down, from the very beginning.

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Taking the next step and moving to Madrid and Chamonix awakened my senses further – to sounds, smells, tastes, landscapes and paths I now can’t believed I’d never truly tasted. The friends I made from across the globe – Americans, Canadians, French, Spaniards, Swedes, Brazilians, Australians and beyond – opened my eyes to new worlds and free-thinking spaces which freed me to hear my instincts – loud and clear.

Picture one at the top of this page is where my heart lies now – far from the cityscapes I thought fed my soul. Near nature, near trees and near the landscapes I had such a connection to in the books I studied at school.

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I can now see that maybe there was a reason why teachers commented on the way I wrote about nature. A reason why I was drawn to the lakes of Geneva in Frankenstein and the powerful effect nature had in soothing his overarching ambition and bringing him balance.

Maybe there was a reason why The Crucible moved me so powerfully as a young girl – before I knew who I really was. I’ll never forget the surge of admiration I felt at John Proctor’s defiant refusal to submit to societal pressure at the end of his life – to be anyone but his authentic, flawed and real self.

What Do Less Authentic Choices Teach You?

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I now see that living your life in accordance with your true values is the greatest gift of all – and my greatest wish for my coachees and friends.

Being true to yourself and having the courage to live the life you want, even if it creates ripples – is the difference between fulfilment and disillusionment – between living and existing.

So I ask you today, wee one. Where do you feel most at home – most at peace – most alive – most joyful?

Forget what others think, forget the ‘shoulds’, let go of the ego and listen to that voice inside, no matter how quiet and tucked away.

And even if you don’t know where, with whom, or how you want to live your life – yet – take this first step.

Make A List – Write It Down – Manifest Your Truth

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Make that little list of what you love doing and what you want in your life – and follow the most comfortable thing on there first.

Don’t look too far ahead. Just implement the first step.

The rest will take care of itself, I promise.

How Can You Apply This In Your Daily Life?

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Once you’ve dared to put your authenticity out there – you’ve made the crucial first step. And from there the universe will guide you where you are meant to go – one – step – at – a – time.

The key is being authentic – putting the real you out there – that’s what lies at the root of the magic.

So do what scares you, do what you’re not meant to, forget the shoulds and indulge the wants – only then will you really awaken your soul. And that, wee Gazer, is where joy and peace align – and where happiness takes root.

#authenticity

#truth

#happiness

#peace

#fulfilment

Why Giving A Little Love Will Bring It Back Tenfold

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What are you chasing as this week unfolds?

What is your driver at the moment and what is it made of? A car shaped treat, a handsome stranger who’s yet to realise your worth or something a little more abstract?

The Buddhists believe real happiness lies in giving – and since they know a thing or too about life – this soul-nourishing instalment from Kahlil Gibran’s spiritual bible, The Prophet – seems pretty compelling.

\\ It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.

For what are possessions but things you keep and guard for fear you may need them tomorrow?

There are those who give little of the much they have – and they give it for recognition and their hidden desires make their gifts unwholesome.

And there are those who give little and give it all. These are the believers in life and the bounty of life, and their coffer is never empty.

There are those that give with joy, and that joy is their reward.

And there are those that give with pain, and that pain is their baptism.

And there are those who give and know not pain in giving, nor do they seek joy, nor give with mindfulness of virtue.

Through the hands of such as these God speaks, and from behind their eyes He smiles upon the earth \\

Why Bother With Acts Of Giving?

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Whenever we’re involved in acts of giving, we feel markedly happier and more at peace. And acts of giving need not be on a Mother Theresa scale – little acts of kindness go far and wide, whether making someone a cup of tea, making time to ask them how they are or just thinking of another.

How Can You Apply This In Your Daily Life?

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So as you make your way through this new week, make giving a part of each day. You’ll feel a true inner contentment and find abundance flows your way

#buddhism

#giving

#love

#peace

\\ Mindfulness Top Tip To Soothe Anxiety \\

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“If random worries pop up, use a further refinement to keep them in perspective. The idea is to observe them, from a distance, like watching clouds moving across the sky.

You are the observer, you are not your thoughts, and your thoughts are temporary.

So instead of thinking, ‘I feel anxious, I’m stressed, I can’t cope’, think – in a detached kind of way – ‘Hmmm, interesting, feelings of anxiety are passing through my body’.

Keep repeating this phrase and, after a while, you’ll find that these feelings lose a lot of their power over you”

Georgia Coleridge

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#‎mindfulness
#‎peace
#‎castellane

Why Taking Time Out Is A MUST – Especially If It’s Impossible

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“What is this life if full of care, we have no time to stand and stare?”

 William Henry Davies

These are the most powerful lines of my godfather’s favourite poem which he kept on his desk at work. He was an extraordinary man in every sense – a wonderful family man, an extraordinarily warm people person and a highly successful engineer and entrepreneur.

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His last words to me? ‘Don’t go changing’.

He squeezed my hands tight as he said this – like it was a pulse from his heart and looked straight into my eyes like he really meant it. And then, like the soul reading Scorpio that he was, he left this world, leaving it so much poorer, but so much richer for having been here.

And you know what? His words couldn’t have been more spot on. I’d just come out of the most toxic of relationships – it frightens me to look back and see how entirely I lost myself. That was partly because I was in such an intense job – I had no time. No time to eat at home, no time to let my emotions sit by themselves and find balance – no time to stand and stare. The soft-hearted girl that my godfather had seen grow up had become muddled, confused and lost.

I now have that time – in bucket loads.

And while I don’t pretend to have it all sorted, I sure feel a whole lot more balanced now and safer in my romantic judgments for one!

Make time this week, Gazer.

And if you think you don’t have time to make time, all the more reason to put some time aside and work out how you can reshape your life a little. It’ll pay dividends :)

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#maketime

#youdeserveit

Why Looking Within Is The Way To Happiness

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Buddha

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“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”

Buddha

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