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Happy Tuesday, wee Gazer

If you’re one of my big-hearted Gazers suffering from heartbreak, heartache or any kind of crise de coeur at the moment, I’m here to tell you you’re not alone.

Contrary to Facebook usually being a place of smug love shots, one of my friends posted a painful diary type entry last week starting “32 and single”. She’d just split from her fiancé of five years and was feeling anything but smug. Another friend has just split from her love of 9 years, while another beauty was stunned by the sudden end of a relationship that she thought might be just what she’d been waiting for.

I’ve been there myself and I know all too well the pain of something you’d imagined lasting forever, ending. The horrible, blood stopping realisation that things aren’t to be how you imagined – that surreal acceptance that knows deep down (reluctantly but starkly) – that there’s no going back – things have – somehow – changed.

I’m not going to lie – it’s not easy – it may even be one of the most painful experiences of your life – maybe the worst – but it WILL pass – eventually – with time, love and more love from you family, friends and yourself. I know because I’ve been there.

We were all stunned – blindsided – it made no sense at the time – but with the benefit of hindsight – it really did – it made sense – and it stopped hurting. And you know what? The underlying incompatibilities I eventually saw make me all the more grateful for finding the strong, opinionated man I’m with today and for the quiet calm that knows, deep down – that however vulnerable I feel – whatever happens – I will be alright – time moves on, hearts mend and the universe will bring love again. Usually a far deeper kind.

So, if you’re one of my lovely Gazers feeling far from yourself right now, believe me when I say that you WILL feel yourself again. And while there’s no quick fix, the positive lessons and strength that will grow out of that feeling of raw vulnerability – that sense of nearly losing yourself entirely – will become the seeds of your future happiness, gratitude and certainty – and when your true love finds you – you will be so much richer for your past losses – so much more grateful, blessed and able to cope with the slings and arrows that life throws your way – in every sense.

And if nothing else, hold onto the hopeful words of Victor Hugo:

“Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise”.

Sending you big bear hugs full of love ox

#love

#loss

#pain

#hope

Top Tips On How To Mend A Broken Heart

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“Some of you may already know that towards the end of last year a significant and long-term relationship in my life came to an end. I shared bits and pieces of this experience in my work, but overall it was a very deep and private experience.

This break up was one of those huge, life altering moments for me. I was floored. Broken. Devastated. For months I waded through emotions of grief, pain, hurt, anger, abandonment and total resistance.

And then, a few months ago something shifted…”

Connie Chapman - Life Coach, Speaker and Writer

Very few of us come out of love in one piece.

And while some may say that those who avoid heartbreak are the lucky ones,

I’m not so sure…

After reading Connie Chapman’s heartfelt article, “How To Let Go Of A Past Relationship And Mend A Broken Heart“, I feel a quieter confidence that while heartbreak can take us down truly painful paths, these often end up being deeply transformative journeys, elucidating who we are and leading to true meaning.

Striking the perfect balance between honesty, pain, optimism and hope, Connie’s personal tale of love and loss provides truly comforting and credible tips on how to heal and grow from heartbreak.

So if you find yourself struggling down that painful path yourself or you’re having a hard time letting go of the past, take comfort in Connie’s words and see how you can channel your pain into positives.

Read her tender, loving piece here.