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10 Things To Let Go Of To Be Happy

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“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change those things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference”.

Reinhold Niebuhr 

If you’ve ever wondered why you don’t feel happier, here are
10 Things To Let Go Of To Be Happy from Power Of Positivity.

Many of us are guilty of 4 and 5, me included.

Which one is your Achilles heel?

 

Till Death Us Do Part: Could Your Marriage Last 80 Years?

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“I would argue that the best option is a happy partnership, but the next best option is happy singledom. I’ve known many friends and clients who are much happier now that they’re not in their relationship. Of course, there are single people who are unhappy without a companion, but from what I’ve seen, the unhappiest option is an unhappy marriage, because you don’t just have yourself to cope with”.

Susan Quilliam, Relationship Psychologist

If you’ve ever yearned after:

1. The happy ever after;
2. A Facebook fairytale to rival the weekly weddings clogging up your newsfeed; or
3. Wondered whether love really can last forever

this article is a must-read.

“If you have 30 more years after retirement, why stick with the same old same old when you might find someone better?”

Embracing love in all its complexities, Moya Sarner’s analysis is realistic, surprising, romantic and unromantic all at once, reminding us that marriage is anything but something to be pressured into.

So if you’re feeling rushed by the tick tocking of the clock or anything else for that matter, check out the tale of the 77 year old who found a relationship to rival her daughter’s – or the 60 year old man who found wedded bliss second time round – far deeper than number 1.

For more where that came from, read on here.

You won’t regret it.

Why You Shouldn’t Believe The Hype About Getting Older

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If we all stop buying into the patriarchal ideas and start owning how beautiful it is and WHAT A PRIVILEGE it is to age – we will really start making leaps as women.”

Jen Pastiloff | Writer | Retreat Leader & Motivational Speaker

I know I’m guilty of this too at times but when I read quotes like these I’m reminded what ageing REALLY means:

1. How lucky we are not to be facing terminal trials which would leave us feeling the complete opposite – robbed of our time and sick to our stomachs time really can stop;

2. How lucky we are to gain new experiences year on year, even if we’re reminded of it by numbers and the onset of grey hairs;

3. How lucky we are to grow older and wiser with new challenges and trials, even if our wisdom is sometimes born out of pain – pain is the stuff that shakes us out of complacency after all – thank God for pain!

4. And how wonderful it would be to be sitting in a rocking chair at the ripe old age of 80 looking back at a life lived without regret and fear.

So today – I ask you – embrace your age!

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Quit letting your life be defined by a number.

By the linear.

By bullshit.

So much of life is about:

☼ chance;
☼ making your own luck;
☼ and how you feel.

That’s sexy – that’s life-loving – that’s youthful.

How To Reframe And Gain

So reframe the negative assumptions you buy into with positivity, proactivity and gratitude – that you may have the privilege, for years to come, to grow riper, wiser and more enlightened.

For as Susan Sarandon so wisely echoes:

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How To Get Motivated: Reframe Your Pain And Gain Gain Gain

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“Satisfied needs do not motivate. It is only the unfulfilled needs that do so”

Stephen Covey, Bestselling Author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

When was the last time a grizzly, sick-to-your-stomach inducing situation turned out to be surprisingly positive and expansive?

How did you feel a few months down the line after that terrible break-up, unfair job loss or frightening health scare? Bitter, angry and stuck or grateful, wiser and surprisingly positive?

This is because of of a GEM OF A SECRET I’ll share with you.

The driving force behind motivation – what impels us to action – is produced by a state of tension, which exists as the result of an unfulfilled need

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This is why being cut loose from situations which no longer serve us – is actually a blessing in disguise – launching us into positive change with an engine of tension-fuelled motivation beneath us.

So you see, the most difficult experiences in life are actually powerful catalysts for positive change

Whether:

1. Losing a job and starting that business you’d dreamed about;
2. Breaking up with someone and taking up a new hobby that opens up a whole new social circle; or
3. Making a fresh start somewhere new and learning new languages and customs which tickle your soul and inspire you creatively

This is why discomfort can be such a powerful driver for growth

and why imagining how you DON’T want your life to be a year down the line is such an effective driver for achieving your goals.

How Can You Apply This In Your Daily Life?

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1. Reframe Your Pain - Remember that discomfort and pain are the great catalysts for growth. If you do one thing today, wee Gazer, try reframing pain and discomfort into the positive motivator that it is and turn your attention to the new and exciting ideas and projects which that tension is releasing within you.

2. Get Inspired - The likes of bestselling authors like Cheryl Strayed and Elizabeth Gilbert didn’t get where they are through comfort. Au contraire – they side stepped, jagged, from the grief-stricken wounds of trauma to the high-flying realms of success that see their names in lights today.

Similarly, if you think Steve Jobs and Richard Branson just got lucky, take a look at the challenges they both harnessed to achieve sky-high success. Sackings, imprisonments, betrayals aren’t what you’d expect, are they? If they can do it, why can’t you?

3. Still Struggling? And if you’re not quite there yet, give yourself a breather and remember – those challenges are what make you the person that you are today – and they will be the making of your tomorrow.